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**Queen Mother Snake**

THE ONE WHO MAKES HERSELF WHOLE

 

A - Aiabá Eyó - (Yorubá)

 

Women's sovereignty and patriarchy.

By Iyá Ben

The idea of a sovereign woman is difficult for everyone to understand, including most women. For, throughout human history and at least in almost every part of the globe, what we have seen in the past and participate in the present is the overwhelming action of men over women in all social segments.

 

The first documented use of gunpowder in firearms can be traced back to 1347 in Poland, specifically within the context of the Statute of Wislica. This pivotal moment heralded a transformative shift in warfare, signalling the decline of physical strength as the primary determinant of victory on the battlefield. Understanding this change is essential, as discussions surrounding oppression fundamentally revolve around the dynamics of power.

 

For countless millennia, the ability to exert physical force governed struggles for dominance, with the strongest individuals often emerging as victors. This social reality extended far beyond public conflicts; it permeated domestic life as well, from the primal days spent in caves to contemporary situations where male dominance often prevails unchecked, lacking the oversight of laws or moral accountability. In these contexts, the one demonstrating superior physical advantage typically determined the balance of power, creating a clear delineation between the oppressor and the oppressed, shaping the very essence of human relationships throughout history.

 

Historically, societal norms have often placed men in positions of strength, while women have faced biological and social challenges. Monthly menstruation can lead to physical discomfort for many women, and pregnancy can restrict their ability to engage in various activities. Additionally, childbirth can involve significant risks, and breastfeeding typically falls upon the mother, particularly in the absence of supportive structures like nurseries and daycare centres. Traditionally, this led to a dynamic where partners worked outside the home while wives managed domestic responsibilities.

 

However, as we move forward, it's essential to recognise these longstanding patterns and strive for a more equitable society. Today, while the forms of gender-based violence and discrimination may have shifted, the need for change remains. By fostering an environment of understanding and support, we can work towards dismantling these outdated perceptions and creating a future where all individuals, regardless of gender, can thrive equally.

         

Misogyny is one of the many challenges stemming from the historical oppression by those in power, which has roots in human social dynamics. Whilst strong individuals have come together to form groups—clans, villages, towns, cities, and nations. Instead of focusing on individual identities, we should recognise that the presence of vulnerability can lead to oppression. This highlights the importance of fostering empathy and understanding among diverse groups. By embracing our shared humanity and advocating for the rights and dignity of all individuals, we can work towards a more equitable and compassionate society.

 

Therefore, let us understand that if at the beginning of time individuals with vaginas were physiologically stronger, today we would be fighting against wounded matriarchy, as well as oppressive machismo, simply because the human madness of the male's obsessive oppressive sadism does not reside in his penis, but in his mind and exactly that is why we find so many sexist women.

 

In an era where avoiding pregnancy can be as straightforward as taking a daily contraceptive pill—alongside a variety of other available methods—society still grapples with the complexities of legalizing abortion. Phrases such as, "He got her pregnant and then abandoned her," echo in conversations, highlighting a troubling narrative. Additionally, we often encounter resilient single mothers who are courageously raising seven children, each from a different father, navigating the challenges of parenthood alone.

        

The journey to women's sovereignty begins fundamentally within their own minds. Women need to cultivate a deep sense of appreciation for themselves, foster respect, and build unwavering confidence. This internal foundation serves as a crucial tripod for true emancipation and the revival of the Sacred Feminine. While oppressive forces, often embodied by men, may seize material possessions or inflict physical harm, it is ultimately the woman herself who has the power to relinquish her own dignity. This self-appraisal and acknowledgment of worth are vital steps toward reclaiming empowerment and celebrating the essence of femininity.

 

In the past, women had the opportunity to work and establish their independence, despite the challenges they faced. We need to recognise that some women may feel pressured to marry for financial security or stay in relationships for material possessions. However, we can encourage empowerment by fostering emotional and sexual well-being and supporting women in making choices that prioritize their happiness and self-worth. Let’s work together to promote a culture where all women can thrive and find fulfilment on their terms.